How to Encourage Parents

When I'm speaking to parents, one of the things I have learned over the years is to always, always remind them of what they are doing right.  The power of telling a mom, dad, or grandma that they are doing a good job is amazing.  Even when a parent is struggling, or when they are not teaching Biblical values intentionally, I try to find a way to tell them what I see good in their kid, and encourage them in that area.

One, it helps them remember that they aren't failing.  Every parent is convinced they are failing in some part of their teens life.  It's inevitable.  Even your "great" families feel like they are blowing it somewhere.  I often do as a parent, and have always found that others struggle there as well.

Two, it points them to Jesus.  It's a great way to say "Hey, you are doing such a good job of teaching honesty in your son.  It shows in how he talks to all of us around here at the youth group.  It really models Jesus for him when you do that.  Great job!"

Three, it shows you are on their side and you care.  Parent's deal with so much of culture undermining them, and to have a youth pastor on their side, even if they don't necessarily follow Christ, is huge.  When we encourage them, it shows we know their kid, care about them, and care about the family.

Four, it's fun.  Giving encouragement is speaking God's words into someones life.  The more you do it, the more fun it becomes.  Sometimes, it's a bit of a game trying to find what to encourage.  You know the kids I'm talking about.  But, it's always there.  Always.

Don't underestimate the power of your words in a parent's life.